My Husband Changes After I Improve

(Minghui.org) I’m a 67-year-old Falun Dafa practitioner. Before I started my cultivation in 1999, I was of poor health, and suffered a severe lumbar disc herniation. A friend of mine introduced Falun Dafa to me. I recovered from my diseases within a month of beginning to cultivate. My family and friends witnessed the amazing benefits of Falun Dafa. Over the past more than 20 years, Master Li, the founder of Falun Dafa, has carried me through difficult times and given me the magical key of looking within. This enabled me overcome many tribulations. I’m filled with gratitude for Master’s compassion. 

My husband is honest and warmhearted, but he has a bad temper. No matter at work or at home, he cussed whenever he was mad. I used to hate him for all his verbal abuse. After I started cultivating, I knew that I shouldn’t behave at a non-practitioner’s level, so I forced myself to tolerate him, but I was still mad inside. As I cultivated and studied the Fa more, my heart was lightened. Master eventually resolved my tribulations related to my husband. 

My husband got mad at me at breakfast one day. We usually drink goat milk at breakfast, but we were out of goat milk that day, so I made some porridge and vegetables and warmed up some dumplings. My husband looked unhappy when he heard “porridge.” He asked while cussing, “Is it that hard to get some soy milk?” It dawned on me that he had told me a few days before that he would like soy milk. I explained to him that I had forgotten he had asked for soy milk. That made him furious. He threw chopsticks and plates on the floor, splashing vegetable broth on the table and wall. He shouted, “I’m full of anger! You’ll kill me with anger someday!”

I felt so aggrieved that I couldn’t tolerate it. I said, “You don’t have to eat. I made breakfast for you. You are so picky!” Before I could finish, I suddenly realized that I wasn’t behaving like a cultivator. I was behaving in the same way as a non-practitioner. It would only harm the reputation of Dafa.

I calmed down and apologized, “I’m sorry. I forgot you had asked for soy milk. Don’t be upset. It’s not good for your health.” I hurried up and made some soy milk with our soy milk maker and called him to come for breakfast. He was no longer mad by that time. He ate breakfast and left for his dance exercise. I thought he was so pitiful, because he had missed the opportunity to cultivate himself according to the great law of the universe. 

“Your Friend Is My Friend”

My husband met his first date during the “Down to the Countryside Movement.” The woman ended up marrying someone in another province. They lost contact for years, but got in touch again during a reunion of the “sent-down youth.” Ever since then, they chatted with each other online around 9 p.m. almost every day. Sometimes, I entered his room when they were chatting. My husband tried to hide his cell phone, but I said, “You don’t need to. I know you are chatting with your ex-girlfriend. That’s fine.”

I wasn’t too concerned, thinking that nothing would happen at this age. But when I looked within for my own attachments, I found my lust, jealousy, attachment to showing off, fighting mentality, and other attachments. I was determined to get rid of them. I persisted in studying the Fa, memorizing the Fa, hand copying the Fa, sending forth righteous thoughts, and denying any interference from the old forces every day. I want to do the three things well. I knew that a harmonious family relationship was the basis for helping Master with the Fa rectification and for offering salvation to sentient beings.

My husband called me around noon on July 3 last year, saying that he would come home late because he needed to pick up a friend who’d come to our city for back surgery. I asked him which friend. He told me it was his ex-girlfriend, and that he had helped her rent an apartment for a couple of months. He asked me if we had any extra bedding and curtains. I said we had both. I told him, “Your friend is my friend. Let me know if she needs anything else.” He told me to get some dishes and pans. I packed these items and we went together to see her.

The woman was surprised to see me. I told her, “My husband’s friend is my friend. Feel free to let me know if you need anything else. You may contact me. I’m a Falun Dafa practitioner. Our Master has taught us to follow Truthfulness, Compassion, and Forbearance.” I talked to her more about Falun Dafa and gave her an amulet. She was happy to hear all of this, and told me that she had quit the Chinese Communist Party organizations through a Falun Dafa practitioner in her hometown. 

I helped the woman while she was in town. Whenever I cooked something tasty, I sent my husband to take some to her. Sometimes I went to visit her and would bring her some fruit. She said, “You are so kind! You bring me food instead of hating me.” I told her, “We must have some predestined relationship. Master has taught me to treat others like this. You must have been blessed by Dafa and Master.”

She recovered well after her surgery. Before she left, I told my husband to invite her to our home. I made several dishes and dumplings for her, and packed some food for her for her trip home. She was deeply moved by Falun Dafa practitioner’s compassion. I was happy to see her doing well.

As I improved my xinxing through these things, my husband has improved too. He has a better temperament and helps me with chores. He takes me to my Fa study place on his motorcycle every day, which he had never done before. He also reminds me when it is close to the scheduled time to send forth righteous thoughts. Every time I go out to clarify the truth of Falun Dafa he reminds me to pay attention to safety. I appreciate all he has done for my cultivation.